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  • November 13, 2008
Happy Ides of November! Happy Thursday the Thirteenth!

  • November 11, 2008
Happy Eleven Eleven! Happy Armistice Day! Happy Veterans' Day!

OK, so Melissa said when she was in San Fransisco, she went to the nude beach. But it was cold and nobody was there. She did get a picture of herself with her pants pulled down next to the sign, just to be silly. Yummy :)

  • November 9, 2008
So, Dr. McWhorter just had a lecture with a quick history of English that just seems quite different. And hearing it, I thought about Wynne, who was into English-- majored in it though she went on to medical school and actually went to go study in England. I might have liked to go tell her about it, but she wouldn't want to hear from me. Anyway, he has a kind of perspective that languages continually change making it just the same original language. So English is proto-Indo-European, that encountered, of all things, a Semitic language and changed pretty profoundsly. and got as much as a quarter of its words from that, The sounds changed (Grimm's law), and it dropped a lot of the endings, and it added a feature where past tense came from vowel changes (like sink, sank, sunk--that's something that happened in Semitic, but not so much other European langugaes). This would be the change to (Old) Germanic, which happened around Denmark or Scandinavia. Then they picked up and moved to the big island. It was learned poorly by adult Vikings, who dropped a lot of the cruft that accumulates from languages. No more genders. Case endings gone except the possessive and he/him. The word order changes from subject object verb to subject verb object. After that, it picked up a lot of vocabulary from other languages to make up for dropping things, like Norman French, Latin, and Greek (which is part of the typical history of English that everybody gives).

Woof, so I went to see Melissa on Sunday only. That's actually pretty reduced because I've been going at least twice, mostly. And she said she was thinking I was just hanging out with the folks. I told her that they left Thursday, so it seemed like it was taking her a bit to wrap her head around why, and I didn't explain that I had a bit of a change in feelings. In there, she asked me what I was doing, and I talked about watching this class and I forget what else. I didn't really consider that she was asking why didn't I come see her. And she was wearing long sleaves, but something low cut. I had texted her at about 4 that I was coming, and she did seem happy about it. And it was a struggle this time to get her her Starbucks. I had to park two or three blocks away. I think it was COGIC. This has only been the second time, and for some reason both times when I went in, she wasn't behind the bar, she was out on the floor saving customers, which made it more natural for her to give me a hug when I handed it over to her. I gotta say it's really nice to be hugged by Melissa. OK, so I'm leaving, and yet another hug. And she's asking when I will come see her again. And she says maybe Thursday? Golly. She wants to see little ole me on Thursday? That's also pretty nice. I don't really know when it'll be, but soon. It had a slightly darker tone, though. She lost a bundle going down to the casino with David after work, (at 5:30 in the morning). And she told a story about how she was waiting for a chair at the big slot machine, and as she was getting her money out, some girl sat right down in her spot. And then on her 3rd spin, the girl won a million dollar jackpot. Augh! that's a pretty tough one. OK, so I don't quite feel like she just wants the money, but it's a thought that at least entered my head this time. And I guess it's only natural. She must have gotten past the point of being used to it to expecting it. That happens. You will get used to anything. Still, it feels nice to be wanted, whatever the reason.

[I pulled this out of an email to the INTP list]: I just saw Lakoff explaining what "haleth insurance" is about. "Health Insurance" is another regressive issue-framing word game. The function of insurance is to make money by restricting health care. That's what they do. They try to deny health care as much as they can. If you try to get a system of "health insurance" instead of health care, then you are trying to get a system of people trying to make the most money by restricting care. It is a broken idea that people need to move past. Plus, when you have insurance, a third of the money anyway is in that system of people trying to do all that regulation and control stuff. So you would save a lot of money just getting rid of that.

regressives have this deep, visceral, hatred of anyone getting anything for free. The Lakoff (_Political Mind_) that I'm reading right now is going more into it. It's a moral thing for them. It is immoral to give people things for nothing. It makes them lazy. It is just inherently bad. So the whole thing rankles. They got this strategy to kill Social Security--spend way too much on the military so the government can't afford it anymore. But I digress.

Now, if you are going to have a complete national system of health care, you will of necessity have to restrict access. Some people will try to take advantage. But it is simply a better thing for the motive not to be profit, but to maximize medical benefit. That's a completely different thing. I'm not sure if libertarizombies can appreciate it, but it is. Maximizing money doesn't make everything better--different topic, though.

Anyway, people can't get past the idea of giving some people stuff for free. Health care is an even nastier case of this. Take Joe who pays for his own healthcare. Because of the nature of healthcare, and how important it is not to have sick people around, Joe's health care for him would be cheaper if some of the other people around got a free ride. But people hate that. Joe would rather just pay the extra cost rather than have the other person get it for free. Cussedness of human nature. But lets take a different area so we can see that this can be true. Imagine having to pay for your own police protection (it's kind of a libertarian notion, I guess). There's going to be more problems, and wild bad guys roaming around, because some people just aren't going to spend enough on theirs. So the cost to Joe is just going to be higher because he wasn't willing to let other people get their police protection for free based in part on money he pays in.

  • November 9, 2008
Why does milk go sour? The pasteurization that they do on it is not complete, so there are still live germs in it. It is possible to fully pasteurize it, and they do it in Europe. There, you can buy milk in boxes on the shelf not refrigerated, and it lasts a long time. . But that significantly changes the taste.

  • November 8, 2008
Wow. Sometimes you come across something and you just have to pause and put it in your blog. I'm listening to Dr. McWhorter talk about language again. And he said we have a word processing problem. It has become too easy to write things. Books have gotten longer and longer. And he mentions that Clinton's autobiography just came out, and it's four hundred thousand pages long. Yay!

Kiss a wookie, kick a 'droid. Fly the Falcon through an asteroid.

A very unimportant person.

So, it looks like they cured someone of AIDS. That's just trippy. It is not really a practical solution, but it's hopeful. And they weren't trying to cure the AIDS, it was just incidental to the other treatment. It was a person with leukemia, and they gave them a bone marrow transplant. But they went specifically to a donor that had the known genetic immunity to AIDS. The bone marrow is involved with making the blood cells affected by the disease, and afterwards, the person stopped aids medication and hasn't had the disease any more, for some fairly long period of time. It's not really practical as a cure. A bone marrow transplant? that can kill you on it's own. The genetic immunity is very rare, maybe 1% of Europeans, but that's still a lot of people, though a lot less than the number of people with AIDS in the world. And I think you still have to match up the donors. But possibly they can look at cultivating huge amounts of the cell cultures, and maybe they can do more fancy gene therapies along these lines. And maybe it's not a fluke and wouldn't always work. But it's darn hopeful and promising.

  • November 5, 2008
So Obama won. That's a relief.

Don't forget about lymph. It requires moving around to work.

I finally brought Melissa her Starbucks, a venti non-fat vanilla latte. And she gave me a hug right then. So I got two--one on first seeing her, and one on leaving. But that's so subservient, that maybe that's what it was. I kind of feel a little different now. Add that to how she was talking about Ashley, who had been dating two guys, that one relationship was hard enough. So discouragement. She had a particularly radiant smile this time. Not for me, so much. And maybe I just have other droopinesses going on with me. Seems like there was something else. I often send a little thank you text right after. Didn't get a reply this time, though she's been having phone issues, so you never know with that. So, she dvdr records some vampire showm, and was talking about it with some guy, Tom, a screenwriter who has redwine with the steak and tomatoes. I talked about how I had a dvdr, but it won't keep the program. She told me to take it back. I'm not good about that. I'm not sure if I've ever taken anything back. So maybe that made me feel bad.

  • November 2, 2008
Quote from Trey Parker--"You know, when people ask if I believe in God and Jesus, I say yes, and I believe in Luke Skywalker and I believe in Santa Claus." This was in the commentary about the imaginationland trilogy, which is about the power of story.

  • October 31, 2008
Happy Halloween!

I have a bit of a cold. I didn't go to the book discussion at Aimee's last night. They were talking about _Frankenstein_. And so I didn't get to go see Melissa afterward. Sadness.

So, googling bardog, I found the blog of a regular who goes there, Paul. A pretty serious blog. I think he does websites, too.

Wow, so it's 9:15. I've had one kid come by. One. None of the neighbors has their' lights on, so I can see us getting passed by. It was a cute little girl, maybe seven. She had a car at the curb and her mom was out with her. Winged something with pink. Maybe a faerie princess or something. I don't know. I don't know little girl stuff. But it was nice. Somebody's little angel.

I think boys like the idea of extorting people. Threats of violence. It's such a visceral guys thing. But thats not a girls perspective at all. I think they like gifts of food. I've written elsewhere that little gifts of food are part of a basic courtship ritual that also hits at an amazingly primal level. I'm thinking of a theory or story I heard about one time how it was part of a basic courtship system that was involved with women no longer having a distinct time of being in heat, and being always receptive. So they got, um, fed more often. And probably more than anything else, a guy demonstrated his ability to provide.

  • October 28, 2008
Wants are infinite. That's in the sense of want meaning not to have. There are an infinite, that is unending, number of things you don't have. But of course, part of the idea of wanting is to desire. You don't desire everything that you don't have. But when you get stuff, just having it isn't enough to keep you happy. Happiness is funny that way. You can get used to anything. It is more the change in things that makes you happy. So you have to keep getting stuff. And if you keep getting the same stuff, then you get used to that. So maybe you have to get more stuff, or maybe different stuff. Maybe better stuff. Just trying to keep happiness going is a tricky thing. Well, OK, you have a certain level of happiness that you kind of stay at. But if you want to be a little bit happier, that's the kind of thing that takes that extra work and is hard to maintain. I suppose that some people who work so hard, don't have so much of the other things going for them to make them happy. The consumerism in Amreica, and some of the puritanism of the culture does serve to keep down a bit of the happiness, so people work to get and make the more stuff. Somehow, relationships are good for helping you to be happy. And the don't have quite the same issues with just getting tired of getting more of the same stuff has. I suppose in relationships, the kinds of things you get, stroking of various kinds, is often kind of new stuff.

  • October 19, 2008
Kind of powered through to the end of _Happiness Hypothesis_. There was only 50 pages left but it was getting kind of slow going. I guess I have other things going on. In the last chapter, he considers the question "What is the meaning of life?" Kind of an interesting analysis, too. He was a philosophy major, then went into psychology in grad school, because philosophy in general had lost the human element and was all into logic and word analysis. And for psychology it was pretty darn philosophical-- moral psychology, if you can imagine such a thing. Anyway, the meaning of life. He first tries to understand what the question is trying to ask, and comes up basically with "Tell me something to help enlighten me about life." OK, fine. He also distinguishes two subquestions. What is the meaning of a whole life in general, and how can I find a meaning in my life. It's interesting to divide the question like that because religions generally can say that God did everything for a reason, so god had a reason for creating life in general, and your life in particular. But you got to understand that Haidt is an atheist. And evolution and science basically say that there really wasn't a reason or purpose for life to happen. It just happened because of various material causes, not really for a reason. So, honestly, some religious people do have real concern over evolution because it does really challenge their understand of life. But Haidt manages to find a kind of atheist out in his second part of the question. It is still possible to find meaning within your life. This is the basis of existentialism, though he doesn't talk about that. But he does go and talk about work, and how you can have work that kind of gives you meaning. I'm not sure I quite get it all, but a lot of it was about how being part of a group can be meaningful.

So went to the big party at Dan McGuinness. It was Brad's (of Super 5) 38th birthday, and also Julian's (of Transitt) 25th. I got to sleep at about 8 before that for a party nap. I forget what all I was doing. I had gone to see Religulous. Thought it was boring basically, and not very funny, but wasn't really so bad that I wish I hadn't seen it (which does happen). Seems like I was posting to email lists. Anyway, so waking up at around 10:30, I'm thinking maybe I won't go. I couldn't think of anyone there that I might want to see. But then I remembered Kimberly. I really want to dance with her some time. She's so vibrant. But she never has anyone to dance with, though she does and really likes to. I didn't of course, but of all things, Chris did. I think I've heard him specifically say he doesn't dance. And I said it was sweet of him to, and he said something about doing it to get laid. I don't know. I saw him hanging out with some dark haired girl for quite a while. I don't know what happened to her. And last I had heard he was with a little blonde, Ashley. I didn't ask about her. And kind of in the middle, he was hanging out around the bar, and he pointed ouot this little red-head he called "really hot". It took me a bit before I even got a look at her, and I saw what he meant. And it was like, she was standing there with three guys hovering around her. Kind of pale, short red hair. Young, I guess. Dressed up quite a bit for the place in something of a professional looking blue dress. I don't know. At the end of the night she was sitting at the bar with just the one guy. Something about her voice kind of turned me off, but she was quite cute. Anyway, Kimmie. I don't know what she likes to be called. I think I asked her one time how she was doing, and I think she said she was pissed. Like drunk. For some reason, she decided to bet Brad she could drink more Jaegers, or go one to one, or something. Ended up three behind. But Brad was quite heavily into it, and Kimberly was pretty close to being sick. She does seem to have a crush on Brad. I tried to find her myspace page. It seems like I remember one that must have been hers under "kimba" but the references I thought were there are gone. I don't know if you can remake yourself like that there, or what. Maybe it's just renamed, or I don't remember correctly. Could have been someone else. But anyway, I think her buddy, kind of a big girl whose name I didn't get, took her home. So it didn't look good for Chris. Oh well. His best hook is his guitar playing, and he didn't do so much of that after I got there. Kind of a big acoustic jam. They seem to have fun with those. Perusing the myspace, I see that Brad wants to be a screenwriter. Seems like I got called a writer by mistake one time.

  • October 18, 2008
So, yes, a journal can be a person's notes as he tries to understand something. A blog, though, unfortunately, is generally something more occasional. You have something you want to write about. I say "journal" because that really kind of implies daily, and a little bit more disciplined. A blog is generally extermely casual, and there isn't even necessarily anybody who reads it. It's public in a weird sense of the internet, but just for the person. I don't know. These days blogs also usually imply the big blog engines that also have comments and communities and things, which personally, I don't do. I think that's because generally a blogger is generally a more sociable person than I. But that's fine.

So, I'm proposing that there is a lot that is mental that is not intelligent. That suggests to me now that there might be a science of intelligence. I say that because I am watching this thing on linguistics, and I get interesting glimpses of how it is really a science, and not just a kind of general study. It's a science because there are attempts to have theories that can be proved wrong, and some are proved wrong. Now, the context for me, of course, is this AGI stuff, where there are just lots of ideas about how to go about things, and there aren't so many ways of just showing that things are wrong. The particular thing I have in mind is the one guy who is proposing mathematics as an AI complete domain, and insists that language is not because language is just a communication protocol. Seeing the intricacies of linguistics, that just seems to me crazy talk. But if you want to have a science of intelligence, it needs to be solidly distinguished from general psychology and from computer science.

  • October 17, 2008
Two things. Theres a theory that depression is adaptive for losers in a social dominance hierarchy. And the ed past tense suffix was a grammaticalization of the word did. Shorter like gonna.

The style of the previous item is curt because I thought of them when my computer was already off, but to get them down, I typed them on my small phone keyboard. I need to at least keep my bluetooth keyboard handy so I can type spontaneously like that. I key it in my car in case I feel like writing in a starbucks or borders or sitting with Melissa or something.

I just looked over an intriguing document. It had left it last night to look at later and I picked it up this morning. It was a document describing contributions to M.U.S. organized in various ways. Generally I don't even look at it, but this year, I had donated something (finally) so I looked over it. They arrange donors in categories based on how much was given, so you can tell within some fraction how much they donated, and the significant of course whether they donated at all. Plus for some you can see what they are doing. A doctor in my class, Owen Tabor gave some amount more than $5000. It seems like I talked to him somewhat recently. I've been thinking I need to go to one of the things, and maybe I'll talk to him. And there was always the possibility of giving a chapel speech. I need to come up with some outlines or something and submit a proposal. Since I'm pretending to be a philosophical blogger, it seems like I should be able to come up with something. I've given an AI talk a couple of times, so that might be a little more natural for me, but I would want to inject a bit of found wisdom, maybe something about understanding people. I remember Cliff came back the year after he graduated and talked. I wonder if he has an outline or something.

Dang, Buffet is buying stocks. Of course, he had been full in bonds when I was in stocks, so it's a little late for me. But recently I've tried to buy more, though it was still fairly high. And unfortunately, this paycheck is going to have to go to expenses. And I already lost a bunch. But at least I can keep buying when I get money in with some confidence.

Ah, that was different using the big sword in the form. It was really heavy, and I did have trouble just holding it up after a bit, especially the second time. But I got a much better sense of the use of internal power that it cultivates. The little wooden one moves too fast to interact with body balance, but with the heavy one, the moves and turns really make sense. And hopefully my arm will get stronger.

  • October 16, 2008
Having language as the main part of intelligence and intelligence just being a guide for the rest of or unintelligent selves, can mean that some of the rider of the elephant in a sense can be completely external. We can let other people be in control. and an agi can do that as well.

d player. American quality. Hit it and it works.

I know no one likes me, why do we have to have a holiday season to emphasize it?

I got the bagua broadsword. It's big. standing on the ground, it comes up to my shoulder. You really do get the feeling that it is, like they say about some of moves in the form, for killing horses.

OK, so I'm not planning to go see Melissa on Friday night (tomorrow). My reasoning is sure, there was a bit of feeling unwelcome, but there is a birthday party for Brad of Super 4 on Saturday night, and I don't want to go out late every night. I'll go Sunday. But if Melissa sends me a text, I'll probably go. I feel just somewhat inclined to not go. I might go see a movie. Or maybe the Mensa meeting, which is at Swanky's, a pretty good Mexican place. Come in early. I've got lots of reading I want to do. Sure.

Can we do this naked? That's a nice thing to be asked.

Guys like looks. Girls like talking.

  • October 15, 2008
Happy Ides of October!

Talk about writing to find meaning. So I have dreams that wake me up, and I can't get back to sleep. And not so much for being scared as for having something to think about. When I saw Melissa on Sunday, I decided to try something new. Haidt suggested that touching for little children is something they need to feel secure. He talked about the experiment with the moneys with the cloth fake surrogate mother who would go cling to it even if it was fed by a tube coming off a wire surrogate mother. So, contrary to what psychology had thought, it is _not_ attachment to the breast. And he said that it was unconditional love between the two. Anyway, so I decided to pet Melissa a little more, just kind of patting her shoulder and back. Didn't even touch skin, just on her shirt, and in retrospect, I should have had just a bit of skin contact, which makes a big difference. And I don't remember her bristling, exactly, but she didn't really seem to like it, or come to get more. She has pets, so she knows how they will come up to you if they want petting, but are sometimes finicky or particular. So at this point, I don't know what she feels about my doing that. But anyway, the dream. I forget what all was happening up to that point, but for some reason, I reached down and gave the ass of her jeans a squeeze, and she just gave me this hard, deeply disapproving look, like "what do you think your doing? I don't think of you that way" I guess it's just something that I'm afraid but expect would happen. But right now, I'm trying to find meaning. Well, this kind of thing has to be natural and developed, and not a surprise. And I don't know have my touching played out for Melissa. It might have been a little unexpected. And I think it was more from her kind of non-reaction that I had the overall feeling of being unwelcome, at least in addition to the thing with Dmitry. And I was doing this when I went to stand next to him. Maybe a little bit of it also, was that I was trying to get comforted by Melissa, like the baby monkey. Hmm. For Haidt, this discussion was in the context of trying to explain relationships, and he was talking about how even adult relationships are built on this sort of basic attachment mechanism between infant to adult. And there are actually two separate pieces, the attachment and going to parent that the baby does, and the caregiving that the parent feels and does. In all this, there is thrown the whole mating thing, which is a compeletely separate bit of functionality, but it uses some similar chemistry. I forget all. I don't know for sure how all the different pieces are working in me in this situation.

I've been wanting to write a port to the AGI list, about how not everything that the brain does is intelligence. Using the analogy Haidt uses of the rider and the elephant. It's important to AGI as maybe some things they have to develop are part of the elephant, but they want to use intelligent methods for them. One intriguing bit is that the elephant does learn, but it's learning about what is good and bad to do in a situation or what things attract and repel it. But I haven't been able to sit down and write it. So I'm at least trying here to get down the idea, before I forget, and maybe I can think about it some more and say something better thought through.

So, my portfolio went down 33%. I just realize the harsh bit, that to get backto where it was, it has to go up 50%. So, I've heard that psychologically, bad things are like 5 times more powerful than good things. There's that, and it's a reason not to pay attention to the short term ups and downs. But just mathematically, looking at percent change, the way up is a much longer road than the way down.

I think we could probably do OK with Johny McCain. My Dad is a supporter, though my mom is voting for Obama. She was for Hillary, but they didn't quite turn her off. I think my Dad must have felt bad enough when they supported her that he was already ready to look elsewhere. Anyway, Johny just seems at least better than little Bush. Little Bush was always pretty clearly a criminal liar and sociopath. It seems like he got support because there just are people who think lies are a good thing. Religious people especially can be like that, but just emotional people in general really think that making people feel good is just a better thing than really sticking to any real facts. Of course, that just personally makes me freaking pissed, but it's the way it is.

So, now that the lectures are getting into historical linguistics, I'm seeing that my personally interest in languages really is about historical linguistics. I kind of what to study Latin, Greek, Proto-IndoEuropean, Sanskrit, and then the Later Romance languages (like French Spanish and Italian), and maybe German just to get a historical perspective. And not so much actually really learning languages enough to properly use them. Because, really, who do I need to talk to? And I put this in contrast to Holly, who actually does speak Italian and French, and bits of other things. Her German is better than mine, though I think to her she barely has any, but that's only because she really knows what it's like to really know another language, and mines only a tiny, wimpy smattering. But something John McWhorter said. There was an old linguist in the 1700s, Rask or something, who the story goes spoke 25 languages. John said he really doubts that. It depends on what you mean by speak. Because with language it's a matter of use it or lose it. So the question for me, if I want to seriously learn one after all, is what language do I really want to use? I have these two little ones that I pretend I want to learn, Latin and Greek. And that would be about reading. Actually, I asked a German professor about studying, and he suggested I take the summer class on reading German, because with reading, you have only one (I think he said) skill instead of several to learn. And now my understanding those is better. For speaking, you have to be able to come up with the sounds, come up with the morphemes, and put the morphemes together (lets call it syntax), and use the pragmatics in a way consistent with how they do in a particular language, because that's actually different between languages. Meanings is only one of several areas. And the abilities of generating are also different from the ones of recognizing them. I also could explain that John talked about the concept of morpheme, which I think is really interesting. It's kind of a little word part unit, but it includes the idea that ends, like s in English for the plural, that mark different things. In other languages, the endings might mark tense or case but in Enlgish we might just use additional words, like auxilliaries like 'have' or 'will' or instead of the dative ending, maybe 'to'. And there are prefixes for 'not' and various things, like German will add 'auf' but English will have prepositions. Anyway, hearing the sounds of language, too is a different skill. Just getting individual sounds. And then being able to tell where different words are broken up in the stream is surprisingly hard. In writing, quite a bit of that is simplified. So for reading, you start at a different level in the thinking process. But like he said, it's a matter of how much you use it. Also, you gotta remember that one of my interests in learning about this kind of thing is to understand all the parts enough to be able to get a computer to be able to handle them, and it just so happens that computers are absolutely great at 100% precisely remember things that it has been told how to do. One of the problems, or course, is that language is incredibly muddy. Amazingly so. Real language has errors that pop up at all levels, and it uses the sort of redundant information at the different levels to constrain the different things going on. Computers in programs are almost never intended to deal with that kind of situation. Very deliberately, they handle situations and data where everything has an absolutely correct value, and is right there. There is no juggling and managing of constraints to get a nice, and provisional approximation. There are a few bits and styles of programming that even deal with handling and dealing with constraints, but even those are logical, true/false constraints. It seems like some of the AGI guys seem just a little concerned about just getting a system with enough constraint knowledge manipulating power, and that's really all the problem of AGI is. Anyway, we'll see.

I guess a way of putting what I am trying to say is that people think of intelligence as something in complete control of a mental system. But it is my conjecture that intelligence is only something that intervense at time in the workings of an intelligent system in order to deliberate and apply additional new knowledge.

Going back to the analogy of elephant and rider, I notice that it had to be an aspect of the elephant that it learns good and bad things. This is necessary for an unintelligent process to benefit from an intelligent overseer. And in this analogy, the intelligence can be external. In fact, computers right now server that function, and not even just AI, though specialized AIs do that too. Also, with this type of evaluating how much you like or dislike something, a system of evaluating constraints with gradients is just more receptive and open to the control and modification by an intelligence as rider.

  • October 13, 2008
It seems like an opportunity for reflection. I just left Bardog, feeling unwelcome. Melissa had to get me out of there. She did it by asking if I wanted a cup. So I just downed the rest. She had opened a new can, so the mug was full. And it's not a problem from me to down a full glass like that, though she was saying it would give her a headache. It's not her fault that she has to get me to leave, I'm sure that's the bosses rule. But that makes me feel not quite so welcome. But that simply added on to the thing before. I had my leg up on the next barstool. No place to rest your feet on the bar, so you can only rest them on the bar on the stool, but that's got your knees bent, and right now I have a touch of gout in my left knee so it's sort of stiff, and I needed to have it straightened out a bit. And I thought I had my feet sticking out, because I don't like having my feet on seats anymore than anyone else like it. But the cook or chef, or whatever he is, Dmitry, was saying something about having my feet on the stool. I didn't hear him, and Melissa tried to pass it on, "your feet" and he said, it's not a sofa. OK, so I get up, and stand over there next to all of them. Standing would do. He asked me if I was tired and needed to go home. And I was trying to even gauge if there was reason to discuss anything. He was tired, and maybe cranky. I guess he could use something to yell about. And he cares about the bar. But I end up not saying anything. They were drinking bloody marys. Super hot. Chris was saying how he was addicted. I had just read something about how it does actually make you release natural painkillers, so they do have a slight drug effect, and I said that to Melissa standing there. But overall, I got the feeling of not being welcome. The idea of the place is that it is a neighborhood bar. Most of them live down there. And I guess it's just feeling a bit cliquish. So my first reaction is that maybe I'll think about skipping a week going down there. I hate to do that to Melissa, so I don't know. I guess I need to think about it.

I have to admit, I've not been in as happy a mood lately as before. Work frustration, and working on the weekend. I need to try to catch up, but I left problems hanging around.

  • October 12, 2008
People emphasize the negative over the positive. Mentioned that in Pretty woman, which was on the screen when I was out at bardog on Friday.

Speed laws and drug law make cops seem like bad guys keeping us from doing what we want. But they are really good guys keeping us safe. They are really bad guys out there.

I was driving and really wanted to dictate some stuff. Seems like phones shoud be able to do that. But then i thought you really should be able to call your computer for that. Computers really should work better with people talking to them over phones. Thats a business i want to get into.

And a fun thing id like to get into is computer singing.

Went out to the farm over the weekend. The house is practically done. The kitchen looks like the kitchen of a real house, not some simple cabin. Nice white cabinets.

On Friday, actually a bunch of hugs. LeAnne was there, and pretty toasted, so we hugged a bunch. She drank absinthe and puked. Actually mentioned putting it in my blog. And there was some girl who recognized me, and I guess just felt like hugging.

So, something Haidt in _the Happiness Hypothesis_ refers to briefly is some results of someone about the benefits of writing in recovering from a trauma. He had people write about the thing 15 minutes a day for 4 days. The benefit was not from venting the emotions, it was from developing an understanding of it. The first day was not enough, because that is only about things already figured out. It's continuing to think about it and figuring more things out that is valuable. So I guess a reall benefit of blogging is finding meanings for things.

  • September 30, 2008
Wow, so putting money in the stock market, I'm now down 20%. If I had just put in in a mattress and not touched it, I'd have $10,000 dollars more. If I had put it in something safe that bears interest, I would have made something. I think the best things I was seeing were 4%. I don't know, it's harder to calculate since it's been going in over a period of time, and I've already forgotten how long it's been. The calculus class actually talks about how to do this exact problem, with an approximation of continuous investment, like daily, instead of bimonnthly, or whatever it's been. Inconsistent. And with computers, I could run something. I don't know, it's kind of sad that I don't think well enough mathematically to just work it out. Plus I wasn't managing it all sensibly. Just lazily, with I suppose some misplaced confidence in the value of staying in the market. A guess approximation I'm using only has the conservative gain of 2000. So net loss of 12000. One thing that I expected to be important in all this is that when you are in the market, you psychologically think about how well you are doing compared to everyone else. So you share the pain. And it's all been an experiment and learning experience. If I had just kept in in cash, I would have spent it. If I had kept it in something making money, I would have taken stuff out and spent it. Having the value go down makes me think I should hold and not sell, though possibly that doesn't make total sense. I could have gotten out. It just swung 8% in one day. If I had gotten out the day before that, and then put it all back in, whatever it does, it would have been a net 8% gain. But you can't work with hindsight like that. It just works on you psychologically.

So I'm wondering what's going on with Melissa. She made an effort to be special nice to me. I think she must have felt a bit stronger feelings for me. So she does the physical action of getting me an saving cans of lemonade. She had to tell people about it, and it was work. I didn't act anywhere appreciative enough at the time. And I think I made her feel a bit silly and awkward. And then, like I said, I yakked about stuff she didn't care about, which has the effect of making her see I'm not really someone she's interested in. So I blew her feelings. But it always happens that the more you know someone, the more you find things you don't like. If you're lucky, by that time you've formed enough attachments and connections that those are not enough to completely turn you off. But Melissa and I don't have any of that yet. It was even such that I actually felt a little less attracted to Melissa, though from my angle it was a bit of a different mechanism. You tend to lost interest in people that seem to like you too much. Anyway, interacting with Melissa has always been a learning experience and I won't let go. Hopefully not in the sense of clinging. I do cling too much. But I try to be as faithful as I can be. I mean, we aren't even friends, so I can't help but give her space. And that's actually another thing that touched me. There was a waittress, Ayanna, and she told me that Melissa had said that she had a friend who never drank. She was wondering what I was having (it was a sprite and cranberry) and was thinking it was a shirly temple. Somebody on Sunday had one of those. Maybe I should try it. I looked it up and it's ginger ale or sprite and Grenadine and OJ. I've never had Grenadine. I looked it up and it said pomegranate and cherry. I asked Melissa and she said it was just cherry, though it was originally supposed to be pomegranate, and she just used cherry syrup. OK, so I'm smitten, but that's not news. And feelings. So complicated.

  • September 29, 2008
Gosh, so hanging out with Melissa, I think I really bored her talking about a bunch of stuff that I've been reading about. We just felt distant. But she had brought some lemonade in cans in, just for me. That was just so sweet, I guess it made me feel like talking. But the talking was bad. Oh well.

  • September 22, 2008
Happy first day of Fall!

  • September 20, 2008
I ate the okra that was leftover. I used to just hate okra, but I think this batch just must better than usual And it wasn't fancy or spiced up or anyhing. Maybe that was good. I don't really like spicy stuff. I guess I just like the bland stuff. I mean, I eat plain microwaved chicken with either a microwave potato, plain rice, sometimes plain white bread, or crackers. Salty crackers is probably about as exciting I can get. So I'm boring. And clearly not just with the food. My writing is pretty boring. I don't really care for new things. Or risky stuff. Lots of people do. I think they get a bit of pleasure out of scary stuff. And it seems like from their perspective, I must just be timid. At least that's the sort of judgement about myself I seem to inherit when I try to understand and accept their value system. But I'm not so sure. I kind of suspect that it's just that emotionally I don't really get any kick from that stuff. It's more about emotional reaction. I don't have good associations with that feeling of newness or strange scariness. Maybe I just haven't had the good experiences that people have had where they have learned these associations. I think I've heard people talk about the excitement of meeting new people. Never had that. It seems like that must come because it turned out something good, let's say pleasurable, came out from it. For me, not so much.

So I went to see Melissa at the new place she is at, Bardog Tavern. I guess I was probably in trouble when she was able to wear something that showed a lot more skin. And really, she payed what seemed to me a whole lot of attention, standing with me for little breaks and chatting about how things are going with her. The whole evening though, I was really horribly withdrawn and didn't talk much. Just pitiful. Boring. One little four-eyed girl just flirted with me stunning. Kind of squeezing in beside me, and actually brushing up against me. The place was packed wall to wall, so she had an excuse. But me? Did nothing with it. From what I'm reading, women are mostly attracted verbally, and I had nothing. At least I get it now. But, sweet little Melissa. The staff actually drank a bit. I swear alcohol just makes that girl act sweeter.

  • September 18, 2008
Wow. So Stanford is putting some of its computer classes on line for free. This includes the robotics class that I took. I guess I don't really lose anything if they start to give away something I paid for. And taking for credit forced me to do work that I would not have done otherwise. Staying up late and missing sleep. I ended up not doing so well on the final, but I had at least learned a bit, I think. And now there are a couple more things that I'd like to do. The machine learning one, I think.

Jonathan Haidt. A social psychologist. with main area of moral psychology. I just read an essay on liberal vs. conservative morality by him. It was from the atheist mensa list, but I passed it along to the humanist list. And then I got his book _The Happiness Hypothesis_. Started on it. It's in the pile now of ones I've started. And now somewhere a ted lecture from him popped up, and I'm listening to it.

So, not so good on the broadsword form Tuesday. I was doing it too fast.

There was a little girl I've seen at a couple of meetups. And a couple of weeks ago, I asked her if she'd like to go talk some time. And she said sure. She sounded up for it. Tuesday I sent an email asking her to lunch on Thursday. She could have said yes. She have said no. She said not now, not ever. Ouch. I guess it was actually a little more complicated than that, but that was close. And I'm not real happy with women right now.

  • September 15, 2008
So, I charged up my ipod, and the first song that came on was "The Great Gig in the Sky". Pink Floyd keyboard player Richard Wright died today. How did it know?

  • September 12, 2008
Trouble sleeping. I guess that's to be expected. My mom has trouble sleeping, and I'm not sure about my dad, but I know he sometimes gets up at 4, and he does the whole nap thing. So I suspect I have inherited sleep issues. A schedule would work. Today, though, they again had little last minute things at work, and I was really needing to get out early and take a nap before kung fu, but I only got maybe 20 minutes. Still, on the super restricted sleep diet, you are supposed to go four hours and then take a 20 minute nap, so you end up with 2 hours a dau, and it's supposed to work well for some people. Your brain adjusts to going immediately into the most restful REM sleep, or whatever it is. The transition period is supposed to be terrible. And I suspect that there is a flaw in it that only people for whom it really works will be able to follow the plan and make it to the stage where it works. That is, it can only work for some people. Neil Strauss, the jounralist who studied pickup artists and wrote _The Game_ describes trying it. And while he was trying to do it, he came up with a technique for getting two girls to make out together, to set up the mythical menage a trois. So dude, while already clearly an overachiever, was still burning some pretty freakin' high octane while he was doing it. So a micro nap for me before kung fu, and then it really worked me up. I guess excersize can do that. And I hit a couple of glasses of chocolate milk. I've largely cut out the caffeine, so I'm extra sensitive. I'm sure that's a factor. But I was really tired today because I only got 6 or 7 last night. Stayed up because of the Memphis Atheist meetup. It was pretty horrible, though. I said almost nothing. Less than usually. Too many strangers, I think. I don't like strangers. It makes me quiet. And that was especially bad because I mostly went to see this one little girl, another Melissa, and then I was a sad sorry person. Pretty obviously turned her off. And I had emailed her about doing lunch some time, and she sounded really up for it. I did say thee that I'm not so good in groups and one on one is better. But still, not good to be with someone and have nothing to say. A couple of weeks ago, we sat pretty far apart, but she did catch my eye. This time sitting across, and nothing. Maybe there just isn't much chemistry, but chemistry can be worked on a surprising amount. If it's not too late.

So I saw an article in reddit about how the more you get to know someone, the less you like them. You always find things you don't like. one of the comments does point out that there is a logical problem with one conclusion about something that seemed to counter this, studies about how you like better people you know in that you will only try to get to know people better when you know you like them, but I think it does make sense. And it really seems to make a difference if you, um, have some fun to establish a connection, at least some kind of attachment.

The broadsword form is really coming along. I'm starting to be able to put some real power into swinging the sword, so it makes a nice *swish*. And it's not simply from swinging it with effort, it really does involve getting the body movement and footwork coordinated properly to build up the speed. Which is I think what internal power is about to a big extent.

And then there is the really bored girl having sex.

  • September 11, 2008
Happy 9-11!

  • September 2, 2008
Went to see Super Five at TJ Mulligans Trinity. I saw Kimberly the blonde brickhouse. Jenny seemed to be with Brad. Matt. Danny sat in for Chris. Madison is Vince's 9nth grde daughter, does taekwondo, is dyslexic. Kimberly has a great smile. I think it's a shame she didn't have anyone to dance with. Next time I see her, I need to ask her to dance. I think she's one of Brad's myspace friends.

Would you believe, my interent connection is out. Augh! The withdrawals! I'm getting the shakes. I've got the phone, though, and it has a bit of an internet connection. And I've broken out my bluetooth keyboard so I can sit here and type at the borders. Got to relax, though. I'm all tense. Maybe its because I'm sitting at a table instead of one of the good slouchy chairs, and maybe it's because of barbie over there. OK, barbie just left And I guess typing at the keyboard, maybe I might scrunch my shoulders. The level is probably a little higher than it reall should be. Not so bad. No speed records, here. But dang, no interent. And the netcharts server went down in the evening, so i was getting constant messages. I waited till morning to go out and deal with it. Too much! I sat in the parking lot at the office. I looked for other places. Mcdonalds seemed to be doing things through at&t. Starbucks is doing things through tmobile. I think i have something for them becaue of the olpc, but i never got it going. I may need to. I've got to catch up on the feud with keith on the mensa atheist list. Argh.

Man I don't know what dude was thinking. I thought clone wars wars good. Not as good as the original stuff, but better than the new, first, three. Sure, ani is a dick-weed. That's been established. Ahsoka has his bad attitude. Now he gets to see how it feels. Well i'll like it. And i thought sticky was cute. I didn't wtch it at first because the reviws were so bad And maybe it lowered my expectations. But honestly, i really did like it. Maybe just a Romp, but that's what I wanted. Adventure. The bravery of the clones. Serious professional soldiers. Dying. The chaos of war.

Relax. So, I'm sitting in borders. They didn't have change for a hunderd. I think someone gave them something large and took all their tweinties. For maybe a three dollar drink, I think ami said. Super tall hot blonde chick is sitting at the table to my right. There weren't any tables, but one by the door, but I ordered, and this one opened up. I coulod look over when she was further awy but sitting about eight feet away, not so much. Did walk past and got this amazingj look down. But there were these too little chicks. Seemed like they might have been, um, together. Skinny little four-eyes, and some crew cut almost mohawk girl. Foureyes, was looking at some books on add she should read, in addition to the one she gave her already. And there was a gift card 4I gave her. I don't know, seemed really gf and gf. But I thought 4I was cute. Maybe it was the bra strap showing. She got me to hover a bit inpsychology where she was looking, and I chanced upon some stuff by Robert Greene. The thing that stood out for me first was _War_. The study of war is in a sense definitve for the study of martial arts. Martial meaning war. Overall, large battle strategy and war history, maybe not so much, but I have seen treatments on generalship for single combat. I've read one thing on war strategy, not really my area. I'm not so big on the history, but I why not? It good to expand. It looks like it's mosstly based on Sun Tzu, but I guess using more recent examples. And then I saw that he has another book on Seduction. Well, hey, I've been reading about that lately. What a coincidink! So I guess I commited. And he has a book on power. I guess he's doing machievelli. Might as well get the set. They are only 18 bucks each. That's pretty reasonable. And, would you believe sports illustrated has a thing on just chicks in body paint? And it looks like it's all their regular supermodels. OK, I can support that.

a couple of little emotional turns. I went to the little Thai place to check it, out, Bangkok Alley, I think. I actually asked Doug to come along, and he's only recently found that he really likes Thai food. It was fine, and I paid for it. Standing out in the parking lot, Doug was thanking me on it being good, and it hitting the spot. And I suddenly had an odd feeling of liking having done something nice for someone else, and how it can be nice in itself, without really having any motive or trying to get something out of it. So there was that.

The other one was when I was getting some gas at Exxon. I go in to pay--I've been paying cash mostly--and I see this woman whom I jut find attractive. Kind of thin, maybe about my age. She's facing away at first, and she turns around, and I smile at her, and she says in a friendly, kind of flirty way, "hi sugar!" Now, I don't know for sure that her hubby wasn't behind me, but it seemed directed at me. And the car she was in was next to mine, so she talked about how cute it was, Really just flirting, I guess, but I really just felt some kind of chemistry with her. A brief passing, but it was kind of neat. It does seem like lately I noticed that there are just some women I feel chemistry with. I don't ever follow through and do anything about it, which I guess is, wimpy, and maybe it can just be the kind of flirting that makes people feel attractive, which is nice.

  • August 28, 2008
i read something interesting about perfect pitch. They created a test for it that doesn't require you to have musical training, which was something they used to need to tell if you had it. Perfect pitch is the ability to recognize a note absolutely, not relative to some other pitch. And it turns out it happens quite often in non-musicians. I didn't see how much. And it turns out that most animals use perfect pitch. They knew about it from birds, because they recognize tunes, but if you transponse the tune (move it to a higher or lower key), they can't recognize it any more. So they are thinking that it's relative pitch, which most people use, that actually takes more mental work. It also makes me wonder if people with absolute or perfect pitch always also have relative pitch or have maybe sometimes have just learned to fake it with their absolute pitch. Since these are usually real musicians, I'm guessing they usually have both. I wouldn't be surprise if non-musicians with perfect pitch might have trouble with some music because they are bad at the relative pitch, and sometimes they can't deal with transposed songs.

I've been posting to other lists. And I'm not getting replies to my actual posts, but I'm seeing how my contributions are affecting the conversations. It's kind of neat.

  • August 23, 2008
So, I went out to Dan McGuinness to see Super 5. It was almost 1 when I got there. They were on a breakd, so I hung out with Vince and Michael a bit (the bass player and drummer). I do notice I didn't really have much to contribute. It was jam packed with people. There was a blonde with a cute body who seemed to like the I will survive at the end. I guess she hasn't always been treated so well. She and and a friend were hanging out with some guy, but it seemed like they left alone, which I thought was kind of sad. One incident stands out, just a bit of a moment. I was walking through the crowd, and I passed right next to this table where I noticed a few girls, I think it was four of them. And I paused for a couple of seconds, and looked fairly deeply at this little four eyed girl in the middle. I looked at her for maybe a second or too. And one other girl said "Hey dude!" and maybe one other said something like that. And I turned away and smiled and moved on.

So, I've decided not to take biochemistry. It didn't really fit with the plans I think I have, and I really would not have done anything with it. And the tipping point was Firday morning, when I started getting up at about 6:30 and thought if I can't make it into work by 8, then it may be too hard to have an 8 oclock class. Messing with sleep can be pretty uncomfortable. And I didn't make it in till after 9. I play on the computer too much in the morning. And it's just reading stuff. I need to play with programs or something. And I had been thinking about auditing the compilers class from Stanford. I've still got a month, and somehow I find it really nice to have a person standing up and explaining. I've got several teaching company class videos, and there's something I like about it. It could be just the qualia of people, which I've noticed I miss sometimes. In california, I used to go to Mensa meetings, just for that, the sensations of being around people, though I never really talked to them or anything. But I looked a little more at the Stanford class, and it's based on lex and yacc or bison. Those are standard compiler tools, sure, but I had just looked up the MIT class, and it's based on Java. That's really much better for me, and it would be tools I would actually use. I ordered the textbook that does compiler stuff with Java. Maybe that will be good for me.

  • August 15, 2008
Happy Ides of August!

I went to see Melissa. It sounds like Pearl's is imploding. The got rid of LeAnne and a bunch of other people. Melissa has been offered a place at Bardog Tavern when it opens in a few weeks. Head bartender, shift 8-3. So I've been trying to cut back, but I guess it's easy to lapse. And maybe bartenders aren't usually so friendly.

  • August 9, 2008
That was way too frustrating! The last bit was getting this blutooth keyboard working again. It needed to have some sort of passcode entered and didnt really explain what it meant. But the evening didnt start so well. I felt like going out. I first tried to go by the verizon store to get a car charger for qrack, but it had closed ten minutes before. I tried the Thai place and it is closed on sunday. I went by dan mcguinness and saw tiffany She was really bored. And i tried to tip her my usually amount, and she ran out after me and said she couldnt take it. And i caved and gave her less. But grr, i hate when they do that. I can understand that they feel bad and all. And maybe they can come to terms with it. So i go over to borders. I did find some cool stuff. A pretty funny book on philosophy. Plato and a platypus walk into a bar That's the title. I had thumbed through the last time a was in and put it on the list. But i didn't have any small bills to put for it with, and i didnt want to break a c. The trouble with German food is that no matter how much you eat, an hour later you're hungry for power. But somehow sitting in the bookstore, i was to inhibitted to properly laugh at all this stuff. Plus, um, front this month proclaims that it is britain's funniest magazine. OK. That is something i like about it. And kevin smiths book about his boring life. There's a psychology today i've been seeing with a hot chick on the cover and stuff about taboos and backup partners. Im intrigued so im giving it a shot. I still haven't decided if im going to take biochemistry. Tiffany is still taking general ed stuff at southwest. Argh. I need to be doing ai programming. I need to be getting on with things.

So I didn't go see melissa. She tested and said she would be working a party, so i wouldn't have been able to even go sit with her till that was done, but i thought i would just go by later, then i took a nap and slept too late. Missed my chance. I guess. On firday, i didnt go, but at about one i felt like going out, so i checked out where super five was playing, and it was doc watsons. I didnt know where that was, but when i looked it up, it was a place that i had been to, maybe it used to have some other name, or maybe i didnt pay attention. I went, and i saw a guy fromcbc, i think his name is matt, and he sees me and says andy, and i think i said matt, but i dont even know if it's right. I see him at roys quite a bit. It was sad and cold, but what could i do. I got in in the middle of their last song. I talked a bit with vince and chris. Chris told me about his mugging. I wrtoe about that in an email to the mensa martial arts group. He talked about what he would do now. And some kind of gun disarming move they teach. I think it was a kote gashi and i tried it and did it with the wrong hand and messed it up. My aikido is so weak. Whatever. A hot chick with like a whip

  • August 8, 2008
Happy eight eight oh eight!

  • August 5, 2008
Happy Birthday, Melissa!

So, clicking between channels, I say this thing on PBS. I didn't see what it was called, but it was several guys kind of pretending to be the Beatles. Doing their songs and they looked and sounded kind of like them. And they were even doing some of their shtick. But it was just a bit off, and I just thought it was irritating. I couldn't get into it I only looked in for a couple minutes. It was a weird feeling. I guess it hit my aversion to lies and fakery. Plus the guy doing Paul was playing right-handed. Surely he could have learned to play left-handed, if he knew he was going to play Sir Paul.

  • August 3, 2008
Cellular South, Argh! They have a commercial, or maybe it's several commercial. They are using _Dear Prudence_. But, in the version they have, in the spots where the should be saying "Dear Prudence" they just leave it out. I love that song. And they just mutilate it. It's really annoying me. At least enough to write about it. I was pretty mad when they used _revolution_ in the car commercial, but at least it was still the same song. Now it's like they are erasing the important part of this piece of art. Mona Lisa without the smile. Grr.

  • August 1, 2008
Happy Kalends of August!

Last weekend I went to see the _X-files_ movie. To me, the story was unimportant. I was just happey to see big moving pictures of Gillian Anderson. I found it oddly disturbing to see her in bed with that Muldur dude, but that's life. Yummy, yummy, yummy. I've seen a picture of her without the pancake make-up. I love the freckles.

  • July 25, 2008
Well, that was just pitiful. Melissa texted me to ask if I was coming, and I said yes. I doubt I would ever really be able to say no to her. I just wouldn't want to. And she was thinking she would be by herself, which was why she reached out, but it ended up pretty busy, actually. The most pitiful thing was that two really pretty girls sat down right next to me, but I didn't say anything to them. And they wanted to smoke, so they went outside after just a few minutes. But not saying anything. Just pitiful. And I didn't say anything to Melissa about wanting to cut back or the dating book I was reading, how it suggested that I was just hiding at the bar, about as bad as staying home. I'm not sure that's right, though. I mean, two cute girls sat down right next to me, and there were plenty passing through. I guess I don't have what it takes. Maybe a seminar wouldn't be too bad.

And I went to see Jennifer at the Pony. She was saying that if the law changes next year like they are playing, she'll just quit. Something about keeping distance, and she wouldn't have any fun. I need to get her phone number before that. I'm still unhappy that I lost Alexis. I need to make some kind of effort with Jennifer, though she doesn't do as much for me. More than anybody else I've seen there, though.

  • July 22, 2008
So, yesterday I filled out the online form to be readmitted to U of M. And I finished reading chapter 1 of the biochemistry book. It ended up not being too bad. I'm still a little shaky on the stereochemistry. It was nice that Doug was kind of encouraging, so I felt like moving a little closer to taking it. We'll have to see though. One weird thing, Chapter 2 is about water. I mean, water? I guess there are a lot of properties and effects involved with the interaction of different chemicals with water, but that seems like a pretty strange subject for a chapter.

  • July 20, 2008
I watched the Batman movie. It was OK. I guess it was good, but it didn't really seem to have anything in it that I cared about at all. I looked back and I didn't think so much of the first one, and really, I didn't think so much of this. I remember some time concluding that I need to stick to comedies, and this sort of affirms that. And maybe I'm a little depressed.

One thing, though. I went out to see the showing at 10:20, but three screens were sold out and I had to wait for the 11:40. So I went over to the Fox and Hound. Saw some mixed martial arts fights. There was one between one guy 6'0" and a guy 6'8". The littler guy was more agressive, and it was over in half a minute from a choke sbumission. But I'm waiting there and I check my phone, and there's a message from Melissa asking if I've seen the Batman movie yet. She tried the midnight one, but it was sold out. I sent her a pretty long message about wantng to see the Thursday night but it was sold out, and waiting for the one I saw. But I don't know. I'm trying to cut back going to see her, but if she writes me, I would probably go see her.

I read a little in the biochemistry book, but I didn't get too far. Maybe I'm not that into it. I looked at the problems at the end of the chapter and they just seemed like work. Maybe I'm just getting too lazy. I'm more into just reading than doing any kind of work. There are so many computer things I need to be doing. I finished up _Dating for Dummies_ and _Martial Mechanics_. Just kind of powered through them to be done with them and forget about them.

I finished the Teaching Company class on _Philosophy of Mind_. What were some of the things in it? I remember compatibilism, the idea that Free Will is compatible with determinism because free will just means that your actions follow your desires. People get confused because they think determinism would mean that you would be coerced into doing things, which aren't according to your "will", but really, free will just means that you want to do something, and you do that, instead of something forcing you to do something else. I'm not sure what else there was. Must have been other stuff. He talked about Functionalism as the best answer to the mind-body problem. The mind-body problem is how there seem to be two different kinds of things in the world--stuff, like bats and trees and cars, and mental things, like thoughst and how things feel. Descartes approach of dualism said that there are just two separate types of things. Functionalism would say there is only one type of stuff, but mental things is an aspect of how that stuff acts. The example is a hand and a fist. When you open a fist, it goes away. And it isn't made of different stuff from your hand, but it isn't identical to your hand, because the fist can dissappear while your hand is still there. When he is talking about AI, he talks about GOFAI--good old fashioned AI, which is symbolic-- and connectionism. But I don't think connectionism is as promising as one might think from how prominently he talks about it. He mentions movies and fiction a surprising amount, like _Blade Runner_. It was alright.

  • July 19, 2008
I'm roasting the other pork roast. The last one was about 8 pounds and this is a little bigger, just about 9 pounds. I didn't eat the last one all at once, I froze half and finished it a couple of weeks later. But even when eating way too much meat, I was losing weight. Mostly because I was eating less of other stuff. I hope it goes ok this time. I'm down to about 195, though it fluctuates. I think I've got some momentum, but I did just bounce back up a little. But while I'm roasting it, a bunch of flies have come in. I don't know where they have come from, but I've killed about half a dozen in the last hour. It's a big enough house, and there certainly could be cracks in walls somewhere, or at least some kind of path to the outside. Flies certainly can smell cooking meat. I think it probably smells like rotting meat to them, which they like. I'm out of bread. I'm out of crackers. I'm out of chicken legs. The roast is all I'll have to eat until I go to the store, and I'm trying to hold off on that as long as possible. It's already been quite a while since I went.

  • July 15, 2008
Happy Ides of July!

Oh, that was bad. I've got some honey that my dad wants me to eat or drink, or whatever. I've found a way of using honey that I like. I make honey lemonade. It works pretty well so I can have sugar water in small doses--as opposed to making half a gallon of kool-aid and drinking that down altogether, as I am wont. There's no wonder I got up to 205. I'm down to about 197, though it is a bit of a plateau and I don't know if I'll go back up, down, or what. My dad has his own honey in little squeeze bottles, but this is someone elses, and its in a glass jar. But it's totally crystallized, plus it has some wax comb on top. I've decided I really don't like wax in my honey. And I have to get it out with a spoon, and I need to take a fresh one, so I've got a bunch of dirty spoons sitting around. So I've dose this with the little plastic squeeze bottles when the honey gets to the bottom, and it's too thick. Put it in the microwave to heat it up, and it runs better. And it should get the sugar to dissolve. Since this is a pretty big jar, I had to put it in for a while. Now, microwaves don't heat evenly--they can't always pentrate too far under the surface, so I was figuring it might carmelize a bit on the outside. I've got McGee's _On Food and Cooking_ so I can learn more about carmelizing, but I glanced at the appendix on basic chemistry, and he did mention that some things don't change phases-- they break down first-- and sugar is like that, it may melt (or maybe it won't I'm not sure yet), but before boiling (or melting whichever it is) it will break down or carmelize. maybe it's oils that smoke instead of boiling. So the honey is heating in the microwave. And it doesn't seem too bad. It's not all liquid, but it's pretty hot, and I stir it, and it all becomes a clear liquid. And I make a little lemonade, and put some ice in. Can you guess what I got wrong? The wax was melted too. I was think I would have wax at the top at some point in the process. Maybe after it cools. But now I had lemonade with little bit's of wax floating in it. And I put a spoon in the honey to scoop some out. It was pretty hot, then trying to rinse the "honey", I end up with a spoon coated in wax. Grr.

I did go get the biochemistry textbook. A hundred and thirty freaking dollars. I have to calm down a bit vefore deciding whether to take the class.

  • July 14, 2008
Happy Bastille Day!

  • July 13, 2008
Happy Sunday the 13th!

I'm sitting around kind of bummed out at the thought of not going to see Melissa any more. Plus my wrist hurts. But why should it be so bad? Well she is nice, but I think it may have just been too much pretend. I do have a history of just pretending that things might happen that keeps me from the more scary work of trying new things to get stuff to happen. That dating book does say not to hide at home, but also talks about hanging out in the bar can really be the same thing. It didn't really seem to have all that much useful to tell me about going out there, and I've gotten to the point just before where it's describing the actual, and those haven't been as much as a problem for me, so I've put it down and I'm looking at other stuff. But I'm kind of torn as to whether I can even quit doing to see Melissa, or even whether I should. It's gotten a little easy. But the bad experience gave me a bit of a wedge, so we'll see.

I've started on the new Teaching Company class on the Philosophy of Mind. There was one by Searle from a long time ago. This is similar, but it isn't pure Searle. I have another class on Buddhism, but that's audio. This one is video, so it kind of fits in the spot I have in my life for watching Simpon's DVDs.

Looking harder at taking Biochemistry. I looked up the class online. I went by Tiger bookstore looking for the textbook, and I did not see it in the Chemistry section, but there was one in the biology section, and I thought they must be different classes, because the textbook seemed so much more like biology than chemistry. And I was thinkong the course number was 4300 something, and I think the biology one said 4500 something maybe so I was confused. But I think they must be the same class. I also got a book, McGee's _On Food and Cooking_ which Don Knuth recommended. It's got a lot of biochemistry. It seems like a basic useful kind of life background knowledge to have. So I'm a little more psyched to take it. Plus, of course the dating book recommended taking classes. Maybe I should go for the adult ed where I might see people more my age, but hey. I do have books on dating young women, too.

  • July 12, 2008
I should write about it and move on. I was thinking I needed to not write, and just hold it in my brain, where it will have more effect, but hey. So I haven't been having such a good week, but as i was drving, I was thinking how even a bad week for me is superfantasticus compared to the stuff going on with Melissa. And I go down there, and there is a really big party downstairs. OK, so they rented the space and I maybe I shouldn't have invaded their space, but they were just about done, and it was just me. I ordered some food, and had it at the bar. The manager dude asks why I'm sitting there, since it's their family thing. I saw I'm hanging out with Melissa, Whatever. And it's a buffet, and they say to dump the rest, so Melissa grabs a little plate of it. And manager dude Dave yells at her. And she gets across to me that it is "really inappropriate" for me to have been down there, so I hang out upstairs for about 20 minutes while they clear out. But it's a harsh 20 minutes. A twenty minutes of thinking about how they didn't want me there. Something to remember there have been times I've gone there and been disappointed, but that was just because Melissa was busy and maybe I didn't get as much attention as I'd liked. But never actually unpleasant like this. So I don't think I've had anything bad to keep me away, other than just the thought that I might have been wasting my time. Now I have.

And I brought up taking biochemistry maybe in the fall. Melissa was talking about how it was harsh, though it sounded like that was for her. I should have said something how it wasw probably more because she never got any sleep while taking it that she didn't do so well. Otherwise she was a straight-A student. And I barely manage to get it in, but I asked her if she would help me out if I had trouble, and she was nice about it, but she basically said no way. And she said that she couldn't explain biochemistry, and she did mention the tutor that she had, who was good. But you know how it is. And Josh was sitting there. Josh asked me why I would be taking it. I tried to explain that I'm interested in chemistry, and I've studied bioinformatics, and also biochemistry is one of the possible pathways to nanotechnology, which is also one of my interests. I still may do it. i need to go get the textbook and look at it. But it won't be an opportunity to hang out with Melissa. Maybe if I take Biochem 2 in the Spring when she does. But I shouldn't think that way. The most significant thing about the class for me is that it is at 8:00, so I could reasonably take it before work. That's a big deal. But I don't know if I'm going to be going down to Pearl's as much any more.

  • July 10, 2008
I have been looking forward to going to see Melissa. It's Thursday, and I was thinking that I would go after kung fu class. And I often wimp out, and logically I was thinking about how I always end up staying up later, so I don't have an excuse not to go down there. But I got home, drank probably half a gallon of water, and rinsed myself off. I weighed myself, and even with the extra water, I was still just under 200 lbs. I think I was that this morning when I skipped breakfast, too. But in any case it seemed like I have gotten a little momentum to losing a little weight, and I now had a reason not to go out and eat. But the big thing was that I saw my gut in the mirror, and I was kind of disgusted and really just didn't want to eat anything. And I was kind of tired, so I lay down a bit. That's the kind of thing that happens. I'll be tired, especially since I haven't eaten. Then I will decide not to go, and eat something, and suddenly have energy. So I should have just gone. And I did eat something. I finished up some leftover barbecue that really needed to be eaten. I was from the fourth, so it was almost a week old. And it wasn't very much, so I don't feel too guilty. But I also got a chance to start on _Dating for Dummies_. I finally dug it out of its box, which was a lot harder than it should have been. I must have missed it the first time I checked the box it was in, and it was a couple of layers down. The process to look for books involves moving and lifting some pretty heavy boxes. And, like I said, I had to go through them twice to find it, because I missed it the first time. Generally I have an idea which box something might be in, but I missed slightly with this one. Anyway, I think I may be ready to read it now because I have a bit more understanding about myself. For me, the trouble with dating isn't simply that it's scary. Maybe it is to me to some extent, but there are just things about dating that I don't like, not the least of which is the people. Anyway, I'm a litle bit clearer, so I'll see how it goes. Already, she has made some anthropological claims that I disagree with. Like how dating is different in that women didn't use to choose mates or that marriages were always either rapes (I mean, just grabbing them) or aranged. That's just crap. Courtship is ancient. In some theories, it was an important part of human evolution. We'll see. Also, in a mensa email list, they gave personality type percentages, and I forget which group it was, exactly, but there were like 24% INTP (there were 33% INTJs, which I don't care for so much). That's a huge increase from the general population, where it is like 1%. So there are places where I might have a lot more luck with the whole approach of getting to know bunches of people. Dating may still all be an E or J thing, so I'm still wary.

  • July 1, 2008
Happy Kalends of July!

  • June 28, 2008
That was completely pitiful. So I'm at the bar at Pearl's, and there's this cute girl sitting a little ways away. Maybe a little over-weight but really cute, and dressed to show off her cleavage, show she "has the cab sign out". And then she comes and sits next to me. And starts talking to me. Said her friends were trying to get her to talk to people. I don't know, I was lame. And while she was sitting there, another cute girl comes between us, and brushes against me a bit--naturally with the part that sticks out the most. It was an accident, of couse, and she was apologizing profusely--she didn't mean to crowd me. And I said she could get as close as she wants. And then she just was apologizing more profusely. Maybe too creepy? I don't know. I'm just sitting there trying to eat. It was really full. Lots of girls dancing. And yet again I wimped out and didn't dance with any of them. Seemed like they could have used a guy to dance with. So I don't know. Maybe I'm not ready, or not into it. I really need to lose a few pounds. I think I've decided that the seminar in two weeks is too soon. There's one in New York in a month and a half. I should shoot for that. I'm not sure I'm ready for the windy apple, but it would give me an opportunity to go there.

I watched Wall*E. It was really good. But I can see why Ebert gave it three and a half stars, not four. It had some factual sorts of things that didn't make sense and took me out of the story, and I know that bothers him sometimes as well. And it seemed a little manipulative. But it was sweet and heartfelt, and had deep and disturbing sorts of social commentary. It could easily be the best movie of the year, but movies in general have been getting pretty weak.

  • June 27, 2008
I'm thinking of going to a dating seminar. Specifically, the Mystery Method seminar in Chicago on the July 11 weekend. And it's led by a guy they're "the Don", who seems like about the best fit for me. He's a mensan, and a bit older, though not as old as me. I'm not sure the whole thing is right for me, though. I read a bit about dating coaches. One girl writing about them is saying they wanted her to spend 15 hours a week. Man, that's sounding like work. And that's also the kind of time these pickup people are talking about you need to spend. And then I thought about my other hobby, the kung fu. I only spned, maybe 4 hours per week on it, possibly more if I do spend a good bit of time, but then only maybe 5 hours. Not very much. Doing it for a year I guess makes a difference, but you get out what you put in, and I don't put in very much. And they were saying 15 hours because that's about how much you should spend on a job search. Dating is a similar thing, since you're looking for that important situation that you will spend a lot of time in. But who does that? I never spent enough time looking for a job, which is why I haven't worked much, I guess. I just stumble onto things and get lucky sometimes. So, maybe I don't really have the interest or commitment. But I'm curious to learn some skills I guess.

And the little girl in the article said she didn't like a lot of things about dating, but I think my problem is a lot worse. I don't like a lot of things about dating, but I also don't like stupid people, and to me, almost everybody is really, really, stupid. Mensa is supposedly the top 2% in IQ, but even a lot of them don't seem particular great, and I have to try to appreciate other things about them, like how nice some of them are. And I guess, the IQ is not enough, really, so that's part of the thing with even Mensans. They also need knowledge about things that I'm interested in. But generally Mensas are pretty good, I just throw it out as a case how I probably would have trouble with just Jane Doe. *sigh*. So I don't know.

  • June 25, 2008
I just finished rereading Buscaglia's _Love_. He idealizes it the way NFs do. But for him, "growing" in love was a way of life. And it isn't about learning more, like it might be for me and the NTs, ir is about doing and becoming better in doing than in knowing. Always being natural. So "growing" is possibly the best word to describe it. One of the things I had trouble with is that he claims very strongly that there are no kinds of love--there is only love. Now, I, as an analytic rational, just know that this is wrong. In Greek, there are even three different words that come across as love in English. And I know that there are many distinct things that contribute to the complex thing we can call love. But, we rationals are basically by nature not as good with all this feeling stuff life the idealists, the NFs like Leo. So I (or maybe we) really need to just suck it up and listen to what they have to say. One thing is that it has to be done, not thought about. And he is talking about loving all men. I'm also introverted, and I'm not into loving lots of people the way Leo was. So at best, I try to focus on one person. I really need to expand. Leo also emphasizes not having expectations or requirements. I think this is just his idealization again, but, yet again, I need to trust that he's really the expert, not me, even though I believe I know what I'm talking about.

So what does this really have to do with anything with me? Well, for one, I'm trying to look at how I'm hanging out with Melissa. Now, it's just work for her. But as a service person, her job itself is a bit of the practice of love. And I have to admit, I like hanging out because she does make me feel loved. But I did just find out how limited it is. Over the course of about a year and a half, I asked her to go do something with me maybe four times, and it never happened. And I asked a couple more times in desparation recently, but nothing. And it's the summer, and when school is out, she always gets closer to her boyfriend, though during school it seems like they get distant. It seems like the past couple of thanksgivings she spent with Randy (an old friend of hers) and to me it doesn't seem like any kind of real relationship if you don't spend at least this holiday together. But whatever. So she isn't available to me, or at least not interested, romantically. I thought I had conceded that a long time ago, but I guess I still cling to a bit of hope in that, but that's not the biggest thing, I think. It had been my decision that despite not going there, I would take this as an opportunity to just bask in loving someone, and it doesn't hurt that it's someone really beautiful. So I go see her, and I'm happy to be there, and she indulges me--she actually gives me a bit of her quiet time on her smoking breaks. A couple times, though, lately, she has kind of gone off early with Josh (her BF) and I haven't gotten the time she also gives me as she is cleaning up at the end of her shift. Two weeks ago, I went down twice, and she left for fathers day at about 10. Last week I decided to take a break.

And I've been thinking and reading about love--and sex. I've got a book on _love+sex with robots_, and another bonk, which is just about sex. The most interesting thing from _bonk_ so far is that they have figured out the main predictor of how easily a woman will have orgasms. It's the distance from the edge of the vagina to the clitoris. Closer is better. An inch is a pretty good dividing point. About the width of a thumb, actually. in the robots one, they mention real-dolls. I looked at their site. It's probably not for me, though. I like freckles. And narrower shoulders. The biggest one seemed almost right, but maybe it was a little big. And I guess, I like pleasing more than to just be pleased, so it would probably just be a boring thing for me, anyway.

But then I read the Buscaglia. A real teacher of love. So that's what I've been thinking about. I'll probably go hang out with Melissa again. But I need to expand out an see some more people.

Mand, what woke me up was that I in some dream, some guy said something about going to hell, maybe me, and I got angry and said, don't you know hell doesn't really exist? It's just a story told to children to make them act nice.

And I get on line. I check out a porn site I have bookmarked, funberry.com. And it has been replaced by some sort of christian teaser message. Kind of trippy, really. And if chritianity weren't a big money-making scheme, in addition to whatever good things it may do, I'd be a little less troubled by it. The mafia does good things, too.

  • June 15, 2008
I don't know what the deal is. I don't eat steak very often, but it seems like often when I do, I also end up watching the _Lisa the Vegetarian_ Simpson's episode.

  • June 14, 2008
Wow! I went to sleep at 6pm and got up at 7am. I was thinking I would go see, well, you know, but I just was tired, and wasn't feeling quite so up to it.

I've been commenting on the reddit page about Eliezer Yudkowsky's blog stuff about quantum mechanics. I'm trying to read more about Quantum mech, since it was brought up in Lana's philsophy meetup group. I had seen a page explaining it in a way better for computer and math people.

So I was talking to a guy Charles about martial arts at Pearl's. He had some lady friend who studied Wing Chun. We were talking about how tough women can be. And he said they were built to take a pounding. Heh.

  • June 13, 2008
Happy Friday the Thirteenth!

I went to go see Melissa on a Thursday night, which is unusual. My parents come into town, and we usually have dinner together, but they came too late for me to have dinner before going to kung fu, so i hadn't eaten anything. Melissa understood this story to me I was hungry, and I was starting to get a headache from not eating, but to me, I was more trying to give a reason for coming to see her. Should I need a reason. I felt a bit of distance, but she was sweet and tried to talk about how the benefit on Friday went well. I didn't talk about how beautiful I thought she looked, or the silly reasons I had for not sitting with her, or how a few things recently made me feel that we weren't as close as I thought, not really friends. But I guess that's OK. I got there at about a quarter till 10, and the bar was full (though all the table were empty). We got out of there a little before 12, and it was earlier for her because her boyfriend Josh came by to pick her up, and this time they rushed to get done. I think Randy was going to let her go as soon as they got done with the money not to hold them up. i ended up talking to Josh about martial arts. He's interested in studying Aikido. Kenny talked about how he used to wrestle in high school. All fights end up on the ground. Josh actually said that's been his experience(!). I don't know, man, I've never really gotten into a fight. I don't think the other guy would look very pretty if I did. I guess I don't know. I was hoping to persuade Melissa to accept some help, but couldn't with the boyfriend around.

Anyway, it wasn't even midnight. So I went to the Pony. It's kind of losing its charm, but Camille was nice.

  • June 11, 2008
There are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamed of in your philosophy--Shakespeare wrote it, so it must be true. A comment on the limits of human knowledge.

So I'm driving in to work. And A guy has pulled into the lane in front of me from a side street. Not completely blocking it, but about halfway so I can't stay completely in the lane to get past. Now, as on-coming traffic, I started with the right of way, but since he was in the way, he had the right togo on and get out of the way, so in that situation, he did actually have the right of way at the time. But he just sat there. And I didn't slow down or anything. Whatever he did, I wasn't going to hit him, but maybe he didn't know that or trust me or something, so he just kind of froze like a bunny, I guess. Oh well. I don't know if I was obligated to slow down. I was obligated to yield and not hit him, but I decided to just quickly change over lanes halfway, which was really not the right legal move, I suppose. Live and learn. No signaling, either. I'm still not sure if not signalling is really illegal. What if I just don't feel very communicative?

  • June 9, 2008
Went to the benefit for Nicki Krueger at TJ Mulligans 64. It was supposed to start at 6 but I got there at around 6:30 and they hadn't started, and few people had gotten there yet. I had felt like eating tater tots, and I didn't see them on the menu, but I got some chicken tenders, and the guy asked if I wanted fries, tater tots, or onion rings. Bonus! I kept wishing I was just doing my form. It gave me time to think about _Kung Fu Panda_. They did start playing at about 8. It was three bands I like, Transitt, Super 5, and Mudflap King. They were collecting at the door, but I didn't feel up to conspicuous donation, so I gave them a 20. But they had a bucket, so i put a c-note in early. I ended up putting in three. This was a benefit because Nicki's family had their house burn down and lost everything. Has to be rough. They ended up with 945 in the bucket and 800 at the door. So they did pretty well. Melissa showed up at about 10. She was wearing something sleeveless and low-cut, and just managed to get a lot more beautiful. I got a hug, and she was talking, so I moved on. And she was with her boyfriend, Josh. I just heard that they have been cool on occasion, but I that's how it goes, and I guess I'm glad she has someone. I didn't want to hurt her feelings, but we aren't really friends, so I didn't go sit with them. And then at some point, I was walking around and she came over to talk. After I left her before, I must have gone outside, because she said she followed me out, but then I was gone. I had come in a different door from the one I went out. And she was thinking maybe I had left without saying good-bye. She said Randy hadn't come over and said hi, and she didn't go over to him either. She was saying I should come over and sit with them, but I had a really nice seat where I could see the cool guitar playing, so I didn't join them. She said something like she didn't know why I didn't come join them. Oh well. I didn't want to hurt her feelings, but there you go. And quite a bit later, I got up, and someone took my stupid chair. I talked a little to Randy, and asked him if he had said hi to Melissa, and he said no. There are some people he just doesn't choose to spend time with. And I said, well, she could have come over to say hi to him, too. I did go over there, and sit with them. I was on the other side of Josh from her, so I could at least try to be friendly to him. They left shortly after that, though. I could have sat next to Melissa I guess on the side away from Josh. It was a chair by the wall, though. I like to sit where I can rest my head on a wall. Oh well. I stayed around till they were closing up. I though I was sitting by myself, but Courtney sat next to me, and then after that, Nicki. Nicki was crying a lot. I think it was all too much for her. She and Courtney were dancing a lot, and seemed to be having a good time. And I noticed Courtney doing some thing, scratching her boob or something. The inside left. By reaching into her cleavage. Kind of trippy with the cleavage hanging out like that. Did I mention she was cute? But I didn't have the guts to dance with any of them. But that's how it usually goes. I don't really know them, anyway. Melissa asked me if I would come see her this week. I said probably.

Well, I posted it to the mensa martial arts email list, be let me stick it here:
I just saw Kung Fu Panda. I thought it was fun. Really pretty good, but it wimped out a bit, I suppose. And truly it had very little to do with kung fu. Archetypal coming of age kinds of stuff like in Star Wars. Lot's of star power, and good acting. Maybe a touch of the American Zen food. It had a theme about there not being any secrets, and I've seen that pop up on occasion in martial arts. I have a book on tai chi called _there are no secrets_ that I started and haven't gotten through, so maybe I'll finish it. It seems like there are actually some secrets, but they aren't as big a deal as one might think.

I also saw the trailer for Star Wars: the clone wars. An animated romp that really sounds like the kind of thing people were looking for in a Star Wars movie.

someone thanked me for the review, and just tonight I wrote again:
That was sort of a quick impression review, but I thought about it a little more, and found something more I wanted to say. I said it wimped out, and I didn't want to go further because it would be talking about the ending, and it's somewhat rude to spoil the end, but I thought it was a bad ending and on further thought, I believe it is not bad to spoil a bad ending. And I found the ending to be really amazingly good, but it just slightly failed at the end. Part of the genre is to have a big fight at the end between the good guy and the bad guy, so that should be expected. The good ending I'll contrast it with is the one from Kung Fu Hustle. That, I'm thinking more and more, has to be one of my favorite movies, and it ends with not just a defeat of the bad guy, but a humbling of the bad guy, and the good guy offering friendship to the bad guy and touching him. In the fight at the end, the good guy fights with an incredible love for kung fu, and with no anger or hatred or vengeance or anything, in contrast with almost all the other characters in the movie. It was looking like two kung fu brothers fighting, and I was thinking maybe the bad guy would accept it, but it takes the conventional ending. I think they had to do that, because in our culture now, it has become a good thing for bad guys to die. i think that is horrible. That's what I didn't like about the latest Star Wars--the Jedi started killing people. That just isn't the way I had come to admire. I real martial master has no need to kill. Anyway, I'm thinking I will probably need to go see it again.

  • June 7, 2008
getting really frustrated. Melissa admits she's being stubborn. and it isn't me personally, she won't borrow money from her parents, either. I like to think I'm being persistent--which is when you stick with something you know is good. Stubborn is when you stick with something you know is bad. And she keeps saying she has stuff going on, but won't say anything more. So has has closed down, which is also frustrating. I can only guess it's boyfriend stuff, because she doesn't not talk to me about that stuff. And I guess that's fair, because I'm no longer being so caring and sympathetic.

  • June 6, 2008
Happy D-Day!

I've been playing call of duty 3. Finally. Got my wii going. That was one of the main games I wanted for it, but the controller by itself is too unsteady to really play, but with the gun stock attachment that I got for christmas, it is quite playable.

So I found how to get a google satellite map of the house at the farm Google still doesn't recognize the new name of the road that we are using--Babian's Way, but they know about clark road, so I can use that. Unfortunately, I don't know the exact house number for clark road, as opposed to 109 Babian's way, which is the address we use. I can also get the cottage by the lake. Google maps is pretty darn cool. I can show the house in memphis, but it's obscured by trees.

So I thought of something I need to try. Some time when I'm dreaming, I need to shoot force lightning like the Sith in star wars. Now that would be cool. Flying is no problem. You can develop any kind of ability you want when you're dreaming, especially with the lucid stuff. I need to get into shooting the force lightning.

  • June 4, 2008
Churchill gave the we shall fight on the beaches...we shall never surrender speech this day in 1940. I was at Pearl's, and I wasn't very hungry, but I wanted something (actually potato soup, but that was a Mulligans or McGuinness thing) so Melissa suggested the shrimp and grits. It was good, but it was a little much for me. So I thought of that speech, and looked it up on my phone to consider. I told Melissa I wouldn't let a little bowl like this defeat me. I believe she thinks I'm crazy. Which is true. She's been having some trouble, and won't even see me to talk about helping her out. Kind of makes me mad. And maybe I think she's being stupid. Which is not attractive at all. And yesterday I went by Mulligans 64 and had a bowl of potato soup. Cute bartender named Courtney.

So Louie in the Ba Gua class mentioned that being in the Zone and "Flow" are the same as the tao, which is what you are going for with lots of practice on forms.

  • May 26, 2008
Happy Memorial Day! And yesterday was Towel Day, but I forgot.

So, just as I was about to go outside and mow the lawn, it started raining. Oh well.

I ended up doing the yard. It didn't rain long, and it was dry by the evening. Did other chores--washing clothes and dishes and shopping. Seems like two days for a weekend doesn't give me enough time to recover emotional and build up a desire to do things. three is pretty good.

  • May 25, 2008
I've started cooking rice in a slightly different way. I don't add the water at first. I heat the rice dry for a little bit. Not in oil or with onions or anything, like you would for a risotto or pilaf, which was my inpriation. Just to toast it a little. But it raises the temperatur of the pot, and maybe the rice above waters boiling point. Have to constantly toss the rice around to keep from burning what's at the bottom. And if there was oil or anything else the rice would stick to the bottom and you couldn't shake it around properly. One time I tried to use the rice pot that was sitting in the sink, and because it was wet, it had this problem and didn't work--rice stuck in the bottom, so I couldn't do it long enough. What it does is to heat everything up and store heat, so you can pour in hot water, and it will immediately be boiling. No waiting at all for it to come to a boil, which is nice. Because waiting for it to boil, or more specifically going away while waiting for it to boil, it can bubble up. Also, I keep the lid on when cooking it, so I always risk it bubbling up. My mom just doesn't cover it, but I like to. You can turn the heat down immediately, since it's already boiling. This time, I wasn't lucky, and it did bubble and boil over a little bit, because it was still so hot. But generally, it works ok pretty well, and I think it goes a litte faster. And I always put in a bouillon cube for some flavor, but I've been doing that for a while.

I got through July in the Sudoku calendar. That took a while. I haven't been playing so much lately. But a couple times I did the hardest level without writing done the possibles, so I think I'm getting better. But this last fairly easy one, I had to. So I'm not super consistent.

  • May 22, 2008
watched the Indiana Jones movie. Kingdom of the crystal skull. Wasn't that great. Too silly. What's her face was nice.

How about them oil prices? You could have bought at $100 and made 30%.

  • May 16, 2008
If you can't fly, then run.
If you can't run, then walk.
If you can't walk, then crawl.
But whatever you do, keep moving.
--a quote from Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Similarly, Dean Karnazes said: "Run when you can,walk if you have to, crawl if you must; just never give up"
And on Firefly they added: "And if you can't crawl, find someone to carry you."

  • May 15, 2008
Happy Ides of May!

I've started playing darts, and I have already improved noticeably in a couple of days. I'm sure I won't continue to improve steadily, but that was interesting. And it wasn't from doing it more, it seemed more that sleeping on it helped, and practicing each day.

OK, maybe not drumming. I don't know if you can study massage anywhere. I just got some material on massage therapy for fibromyalgia. Don't sound too bad. Melissa had a thing one time where she got a massage and it messed her up for a few days. Thye probably just overdid it. Have to go extra slow for that.

  • May 14, 2008
And there are so many drummers out there.

I remember people thinking that we wouldn't read any more. Or write. But now the kids text all the time. Good old fashioned reading and writing. And posting on the little social sites. I don't do that so much. Writing is more than encoded speech. It has nice features on it's own. Quiet is private when you're jammed together with folks. It isn't going away. I was a speech rec believer, but text has some staying power.

  • May 13, 2008
Happy Tuesday the Thirteenth!

I'm glad I didn't call. She said she stayed in bed from Saturday night to Monday afternoon when she had to go to work. That girl!

So I tried getting into the second chapter of Neil's book. I should quit. I think to a lot of people, maybe he might come across as pretty smart--he talks about reading "the great books"-- but to me he sounds thick as a brick. I don't really care for travelling or motorcycles. It's not my kind of thing, really, but I wanted to give it a shot. I do sort of have a preconception that drummers are stupid. This hasn't dispelled it. So I'm no longer so psyched about playing. It is kind of a mindless thing, anyway. What I need to do is develop a computer program that can properly sing.

Well, hmm. Neil is an ENTP, which is pretty close to me. But it seems quite far. The whole risk-taking thing. I'm just not into it.

  • May 11, 2008
Happy Mother's Day!

So, I decided to come to Starbucks. Went out to Borders to pick up something by Neil Peart, I"m hoping it inspires me to pick up the drums. And more specifically, I'd heard that he was a pretty smart and interesting guy, somewhat intellectual. I just want to see if drummers can be the kind of person I would want to be. I get the feeling they are kind of dumb and brutish--animal as it were. I"m thinking again of taking up the drums. I had thought about it last year, but I was just getting into the kung fu, and I decided it would probably be too much effort. I can only put so much into things. And it"s probably never going to be too likely that i'll stick with it. But it"s the same thing with the kung fu, and that's been a year now.

Augh, And I'm wishing I could just go see Melissa. She hasn't responded to my last two text messages, but last night I went by, and she seemed to say something about her messages being full. I went by about midnight and missed tom dick and harry playing. She hadn't been sleeping and i wanted to know how she was doing. And I found out that she had gotten a couple of hours after massively medicating. She was in some kind of real tortured, fitful pain when she lay down. . Is it being too intrusive to want to know how she is? I guess.

OK, so I didnt eat anything, and came in late, but I wanted to give Melissa something for being there. And this time, she wouldn"t accept it. Grr. She used to try that. And Chip from Mudflap Kings did the same thing. Made me feel bad. Hmm. Maybe it's not so good of me. It could be me trying to look important. And it could look bad. I have her number, I could call. *sigh*

I needed to get out. I was pissed. I put the DVR on a UPS, but it didn't go a whole day without being reset. So it must not be the power. The thing is just broken. I guess.

So, Neil Peart. My impression so far: Ugh. Me daughter die, ay? Me wife sad. She want to die. She broke heart. She get cancer. She die. Me live. Me ride bike. Me get radar detector. Me go fast. Cop take.

Shoot. So I wanted to go see TJ Mulligans 64. And I was thinking of shooting a practice rack of pool. I've been thinking of taking that up. Again, maybe? I don't know. I tell people we used to have a pool table at my house. It's conversation, I guess. I haven't played in a long time. I don't know if I ever got consistent. So I'm in there. They have two tables, and a couple of old hacks are playing at the other, and I check, and I haven't brought in enough quarters, so I sit back. And the guy playing at the other table, plays a couple of the cuties. Maybe they were with them, I don't know. One girl seemed to at least know what she was doing-- but had no cue accuracy, so couldn't make anything. and I think the other, maybe named Stephanie, in the little cowboy boots (they were singing that they were made for walking), had no clue. Did get the other one to help pick shots. Anyway, they finish off the game with the guy, and they play each other. I guess. Never finished it I think at some point, the guy came over and started clearing. So I was shut out of the table. And they were pointing over to me. Actually, I was sitting at the bar watching, and there was a group of the hombres, and one kind of gestured that I should go over. Man. But actually closer than the pool table, there were some folks playing darts. Someone brought in his set. And I'm thinking, well, that's actually a martial art. Maybe I should take it up. And I know a good bit about poisons. Sounds like a hobby. I wonder if you could kill a squirrel with a dart. Buggers are quick. Might not be able to toss it fast enough.

I just heard of something interesting. Skype has an API to for doing VOIP. I've wanted to do some speech recognition, processing stuff again. It sounds like a good platform. I really needed something with access to the sound stream data, and it probably has that. There's a guy on the AGI list, Stephen Reed, who wants to hook something like that up with the Sphinx recognizer, and some other system, with his text based ai system (texai). We'll see how that goes for him.

  • May 10, 2008
It made me laugh out loud. I got a battery backup uninterruptible power supply (welcome to the 90s) so my digital recorder wouldn't reset all the time. And as a bit of a nice side effect, now my desktop is on interruptible. I've actually never had a problem from that (I guess I've been lucky) but now I got it. It's kind of nice that with laptops you get that reliability automatically, although in windows world, it ends up more likely that the computer will freeze up, or your editor program will freeze up, or this actually happened to me, you'll be doing something in a browser window, and another browser window will crash all your browser instances. Darn crappy software standards. Anyway, it said on the box, lightning protection, guarranteed(?!) Now, surge protection in general means protection, not from lightning, but from smaller elelctrical surges that can happen from, say, big electric motors switching on and off, or other kinds of things like that. But, problems with lightning are so rare that they can perfectly reasonably have a guarantee to protect against it. Not that it will protect against it, or survive it in itself, but kind of like an insurance thing where they will pay you for damages if one of those rare things does actually happen, where lightning hits your transformer or something. And it wasn't you just being stupid and using it outside in a thunderstorm. I doubt any of these places has even ever had a claim brought to them. It would be kind of interesting to see. Now, the battery backup thing is actually slightly more electrically isolated. And I suppose it's possibly that the "surge protector" has something to reduce overvoltage issues. But protection from lighting? It just makes me laugh. Kenny at Pearl's yesterday was saying how he lived on a farm as a kid, and he saw a cow hit by lightning. It basically exploded. Poor Melissa is such a sweethearted animal lover, she probably really didn't need to here that. Or about the time a cow had it's horn frozen to the ground and rancher had to chainsaw its head off. Fun kid, that Kenny.

Yay! and my Wii works again! At Best Buy, in addition to the UPS, I also got their little wireless IR sensor bar. And I only wanted a wired one, so I didn't think to get theirs, though I saw that they had one. And I get it, and it has a plug to used it as a wired one. Grr! I had order a cheap one online (with horrible messed up chinese docs) and it didn't work. And then I took so long to try this. So much gaming time lost. I tried stuff out, and I was really rusty. And maybe the quiet sudoku playing is getting to me, but I feel kind of overstimulated. Now I just feel like sitting quietly. Actually, that's what I do at Pearl's. Hmm. And I just found out that Melissa hates to just sits still. Some folks are just fidgety. That's totally not me. And when I found that out about her, it just showed me that we totally couldn't work, but I can't help still being smitten. But the fidgety girls are always so thin--it's part of the deal-- and everybody likes thin. Man I used to be thin. Grr. I don't know if I used to be fidgety. Brains themselves can use a lot of energy, if you use them a lot. I don't know.

  • May 5, 2008
¡Feliz Cinco de Mayo!

I got through June in my Sudoku calendar. Halfway through the year. I'm not using any external stuff to help, no "cheating", but several times now I've resorted to a kind of guessing, which I'm not so happy with. I think it would have been better to use the strategy search thing to maybe learn something instead of doing that. My mom actually solve a blank belt level puzzle, though she did use the solution when she got stuck on the last square. Still, I think it's pretty impressive, based on how hard they can be. Trial and error can be an effective approach.

I started on three books. None of them was very interesting, which I guess is why there were three of them. I got a bunch in the mail, including several books on coding. _Beautiful Code_ was the coding book I started. I also tried Neil deGrasse Tyson's _Death by Black Hole..._ It mentions the question about a tree falling in the forest making a sound or not, but he dismissed it as a stupid question. Plus the chapter didn't seem to say anyhing, so I put it aside. One of the atheist mailing lists wanted to discuss it, and they talked about it at their book meeting. We'll see if I read any more. And there was _Omnivore's Dilemma_, which I mentioned before. So I spent a lot of time on the Sudoku, instead.

  • May 3, 2008
So, there are about 230 Google hits for "octo-lavo". It's a type of vegetarianism. I'm guessing it's a type of vegetarianism where because you don't get enough protein, your body has started to digest your brain. I think I've mentioned it before, and I'm glad the idea is still going strong. It literally means "eight-washing" and I think that kind of obsessive compulsion itself would indicate some level of brain damage. But I have to concede that it's probably more a matter of people getting confused by the term "ovo-lacto" which is a different type of vegetarianism that includes eggs and dairy products. But a mistake like that I think does also indicate some level of impairment, so I think my analysis stands. And a nifty thing about this most recent Googling is that it now comes up with a lot of pictures of the octo-lavos. Mostly skinny looking women. More corroboration, I believe.

I was thinking of the octo-lavos because I started on _Omnivore's Dilemma_ for Aimee's book group. I think that's another misuse of language. They mentioned that the origin of the title term comes from some professor thirty years ago, so I wouldn't be surprised at the mistakes. Ah the glorious, spacey 70s! "Dilemma" of course implies having two choices-- that's what the "di-" in the word means. Unless you broaden what you are trying to say to just mean a difficult choice, in which case, of course, "dilemma" is no longer really the correct word. So I'm not starting off with a good feeling about the book. But who cares? Why stick to what words actually mean. Which is why I can embrace the term "octo-lavo" vegetarian. Dude does mention the ovo-lactos, though, which is why I thought of their sisters from the special bus.

  • May 1, 2008
Happy May Day!

  • April 29, 2008
Your zombie dictator demanded ritual cannabilism. Doesn't that sound a little crazy to you?

I finally finished the book of 180 Sudoku puzzles. The last section of about 30 was actually moderately challenging, I guess is why it took longer than I was thinking.

OK, so what could the ritual cannibalism mean? Well if you look at it as Jesus was one of the few enlightened folk who see themselves not as the smaller self confined in this body, but just the same as (I almost said part of, but that's wrong) the greater self that includes all things, then it makes sense. And it this sense of God that they are really getting at. And it isn't a God that created everything back in the past and occasionally tips things over or whatever. It's a god who is constantly doing everything at all times even now. But, the thing is, that's either true or it's not. And maybe it's only true as an explanation you work with and makes sense to you. Even in the sense of true as in useful working theory, it could still be false. Because what does it get you? For some people it's helpful to have an imaginary firend that's controlling things, because it lets them be optimistic about stuff. It turns out that optimism is useful in itself. There's that whole death not being such a scary bad thing, but I think that value is a bit overstated, and really not all that good. It really seems like people pretend that their loved ones going to a better plaes comforts them, but for what I've seen, they are really pretty devastated, and it's more something that supports them in their denial, and makes it a much more serious psychological problem. A lot of it is crazyiness.

  • April 27, 2008
Hmm. So Aimee said she might come by Pearl's after going to the roller derby. But she didn't. And she didn't send a message or anything. Today I sent her a text asking how it went and said Melissa knew somebody that did the roller derby thing, and maybe would like to go sometime. I guess that was a little sad that I was mentioning her in the message, but oh well. Now I'm finding that I'm a little angry that Aimee just skipped without anything. I need to take a hint. But I need to get over it too, and not be petulant. Maybe. I think she's cute. I have general liked talking to her. She said she'd like to talk some time. But she seems to have that thing about not really being into telling the whole truth, in order to spare people's feelings, a thing that just irks me. Part of being a sweet person, I suppose. I'm just trying to think of what the right reaction is. Don't be a doormat. Be tough and firm. And don't chase. Be the prize.

  • April 25, 2008
A day of Shiva. On the way to work, a bird who was actually a little forward and to the right, decided to dart in front of my car, and I hit him. I could see him fluttering on the ground. There was a death recently in the family of someone from work. My car was munched. A big branch from a tree fell on the house and put a hole through the roof, so rain came in. We just noticed today, though it must have been there for a while. Somebody just told me their relationship was having trouble. Just kind of some freakish stuff. Nothing super big (well, the death wasn't good, but i hadn't even actually met the person). But still, for a person who follows the signs, it's rather uncanny. And when i switched on the iPod this morning, the first song that came up was the first track on _Oh Brother Where Art Though_--"Lonesome Valley". If you know the song, you know what I mean. Right now it's the Beatles' "Run For Your life".

  • April 23, 2008
I just saw on reddit something about a computer program to help with memory (supermemo). I think my brother Freddie told me about it, and he's using it to practice language and learn Chinese, and also to help teach his kid. It uses the known fact that we forget in a sort of exponential decay, so it gives flash cards in a pattern with exponentially decaying probability based on how you have been remembering.

It made me think about how I keep reading the AGI list. And I really get kind of discouraged, because they really don't come up with a lot of insight. So here is the latest thing I'm thinking. They keep wanting computers to think like people, but do not focus on finding out how it might be possible to translate. how people think about things to how computers think about things. For one, If a computer can learn how to do things, it needs to be able to write the specialized program that can do it, the way a person can. People do chunking, where they take some complicated set of motions or things to do, and in a sense make them a kind of "instinctive" pattern where they do it automatically without thinking. Computer programs are kind of like that at a completely different level--a different level in the sense that in a person there is always some room to break it open and change out a step or recognize that something is going awry and fix it. Computers get extremely locked down. There used to be a notion of "interrupt" where a computer could be disrupted and something else would go on, but that's hard to program, and it is avoided in a real program. But it could be a mechanism to make a computer program more intelligent-- interrupt it when it isn't doing so well and offer possible improvements to the compiled code. That is in a sense what programmers do when they revise code. So it looks like I'm basically proposing that the proper role for an intelligence on a computer is to be a programmer. Computers do their own kind of thinking, and it should be a goal of people to find out how to translate our ways of thinking to how a computer does think, instead of trying to figure out some magically essence of how people think and getting some program to do that. There might not be an essence (a simple thing we try to call intelligence).

We use huge thought processes involving billions of neurons--this involves huge amounts of simple mechanisms. And what kinds of things do these simple mechanisms do? The evaulate patterns. And they make judgements about what kind of actions are good in different situations, and boil them together kind of competitively (that is, in parallel all working at the same time to find what they think of is the best answer based on how they have been configured at the time) to come up with a decision about what next to do. The final pipe is very narrow--we can't do very much at one time, but if we have lot's of bits of brain, we can consider a lot of possibilities. And the bits of brain, if they are limited about what they can think about, and think about a lot of things independently, and they don't have to bother the rest of the bits of the brain until they come up with something really good, and then the shouting can get louder and louder until the whole brain gets involved, and maybe we eventually decide to do something. And another thing that people can do, is to come up with words and descriptions to shout, and we can shout these to ourselves inside in what is called "thinking" or deliberation, which is already a big step above the unconscious processes that happen in the bits of brain. And thinking in words is part of the even huger system that lets us pass part of the thinking mechanism on to other people, so the thoughts can bounce around with them, and maybe bounce back. It is a narrow and specialized pipe, but quite general and something we have been highly adapted to, on top of our underlying system. And it turned out that we found a nifty external systme of writing where we could put these wirds streams down.

Anyway, I need to contrast how computers think. Computers have an incredibly narrow final pipe, and actually, it's just one narrow pipe from start to finish. But it's incredibly fast, and absolutely exact. Everything is remembered without error, and all the evaluations are done now simply without error, but with a precision of at least a part in a million or billion or whatever you need, such that in a sort of vague sense, it could exactly emulate anything that may be going in any of the simple evaluators in our heads, exactly, tirelessly, and without error. If we have some condition and known situation and context that a computer can be told about, it can me made to make the exact decision and take the action that we tell it. Programming is a